how to have a good relation

I belive that a Good relationship should have the following qualites if its Good in true sense. And if we all think we share Good relationship with some one, but dont have the following qualites I'l be mentioning here should consider the following points. Because over the years, I have realised that these qualties are just so basic. Yet sometimes they are missing in our relationship. If we try to have these in our relationship, our relationship can get better than we thought.

I will be writing all the qualites that I feel are essential, because I think that relationships should be our top priorty. Because when they get or become Good they not only satisfy our needs, but also make our life easier and fulfilling.

But before that, I think the basic problem of any relationship is selfishness. And the main reason behind the problem is we often get into a relationship thinking we will get what we want. But we should focus or concentrate on giving rather than taking. So the first step is to GIVE rather than TAKE. If you have this quality in your relationship, CONGRATS.haha. If not, try it. It will get your relationship better.

Next problem is, we often tend to chose perfect love ( partner ) rather than creating that perfect love. The fact is no one is perfect in this world. We often make mistakes when we search for the perfect partner. If something goes wrong, we start blaming the other partner for it, without trying to know that can we ourselves change a bit on that particular situation. If the relationship is true, one can always find place to improve and change.

The third and most seen problem is MISTAKES. haha. No one admits mistake at first place. But in a good relationship, both parties aren’t afraid to admit mistakes. Instead of being defensive, they openly admit the mistakes they make. They can then work together to correct the mistakes. This, of course, is not easy to do. It takes a humble heart to admit mistakes.

Also, I belive In a good relationship, both partners should be good listeners. If they are willing to understand their partner’s position first before trying to get understood and make conclusions. Doing this is much easier when both sides see the relationship as an opportunity to give.

Something out of the topic, But it helps making a relaion grow strong.

And then the problems that dont need any explainations are misunderstanding and respect. No matter how worse the situation is, think for others, rather than considering how you are feeling. Have respect and try to sort out the misunderstanding part, instead of acting kiddish and making conclusions. Because If a person loves us truely, no matter how bad he turns at the end, he surely has a reason for it. So try to understand the reason, maybe you can act on it. And get your relationship in full form. Instead of having hatred and ignoring. Because this will only help you get away with that person. And ignoring is no way a solution to any problem. And this may repeat with your future partners too.