Sunday, December 29, 2013
Thursday, August 8, 2013
Turn the failure into a coup :We all experience the blow of failure. No matter initially how distasteful or disappointing it feels, it can be helpful if viewed in positive manner. Now how do we do that?
We do that by solving a simple exercise.
- Why did this happen?
- Could I have done anything to prevent it?
- Are there flaws in my work and approach that need correcting?
- Was I working in the wrong environment for my style and interests?
- How can I use this experience to positive advantage?
- Where can I improve myself as a result of this experience?
Try to answer these questions in a way that isn't harsh on you. Self evaluate yourself.
Don't be seduced by the idea that a single failure means you are a complete failure. Avoid compounding one fear into many by blaming and shaming yourself unduly.
Everyone witnesses failure. Everyone falls. You be the one who falls "forward"
Make "endings" open new doors to "beginnings"
Be as positive as you can, and one day you shall realise..
Life's battles not always go to stronger man or woman, but sooner or later to those who think that "they can".
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
I talk to strangers regularly. I must admit that I do not speak to everyone, but because of my somewhat extroverted nature, I do make a point of talking to many strangers, regardless of who they may be, what they may first appear to be, or what they physically look like.
Now, the problem here is that now days a lot of us consider this kind of behaviour foolish. Many of you reading this note would not agree and believe " talking to strangers is incredibly idiotic "
But i disagree. There is nothing better than knowing the lives of different people. It helps you develop new thoughts , broaden your thinking and make you aware of what YOU are and what the OTHER person is.
Sometimes , it is reasonable and even smarter to avoid people provided you have the ability to JUDGE CORRECTLY a person. But how many of us are so sure about our ability to read minds.
To get to the point , I would say talk to strangers and PLEASE don't tag them as "boring" "idiotic" "untrustworthy" because
many of us show our true nature immediately while others take time to reveal their true nature and intent. This can be
done only by talking.
" Avoiding people , not talking to them because of their FIRST impression , idiotic nature , foolishness WILL only make you less aware of different things. "
What I say is give chance , let others speak , you NEVER know you may end up being one of their best friends.
"A stranger is just a friend you have not yet met "
Thursday, May 6, 2010
Monday, April 26, 2010
What would you prefer first? You or your relationship? Although answering “the relationship” may sound correct to you now. It is a unhealthy and wrong way to live thinking relationship comes first.
Often people have relationships based on having fear of losing, being dependent on the partner and having insecurites about ourselves.
It is only when you can respect and love yourself first, that the relationship can be a truly loving one and not one based on need, dependency, fear, or insecurities.
In simpler way when we travel in a plane, We are given instructions that in an emergency we should put mask on ourselves first rather than helping our child our partner. Has anyone wondered why do they say this? Don't you feel it is kind of slefish to help ourselves FIRST before helping others? If you consider it selfish, the answer is how can you help someone when you’re unconscious or struggling for breath?
Love is similar to that mask. We can’t fully love our partner unless we love ourself FIRST. Strap that air mask on good and tight, and we will be able to love endless amount. If we don’t love ourself first, we have no love to give. If you truly put yourself first in love, nurture yourself, honor what you want, and make YOUR happiness the number one priority, you are better equipped to love others. By doint this We canlove others to the degree we love ourselves.
Saturday, April 24, 2010
I belive that, no relationship in this world can withstand TRUTH and only truth. Whether we like it or not, it appears that our relationships are held together, not only by telling the truth, but by also telling an occasional lie. I basically am trying to say that the truth can be used as a "weapon of destruction" in our close relationships. Some people use that, some don't.Accoring to me, People who lie to their partner is because they don't want to hurt them. People lie, because they still want to continue, knowing that they have done few things wrong, they still are willing to continue. If a person has committed a mistake and knows to himself that he can commit that mistake again, or this is the way I want to live, Why would he lie about this to his partner? He would rather tell his partner the truth, get away with him ( which is obvious ) and enjoy the things he did secretly without any further fear of being get caught. Don't you all think so?
If people in this world try to know all these things and the meaning of these things, life becomes so carefree. We all should try to know people as much as we can. And we should put no obstructions to it.
I firmly belive that Lies that build are better than truths that destroy.
P.S- Make no mistake about it, telling the truth is necessary in a close relationship But, always telling the truth often leads to more problems than good.