Stop your thoughts.

First of all alot of thoughts have been put into this post of mine which reads "Stop your thoughts"That's ironic I know! 

So Here I begin 

So What are thoughts? Why do we think? Why am I thinking at the moment about what am I going to write to get this post popular? Why?

Maybe by the end of this post you and me would be pretty clear and certain about why this was written.

So lets just get thoughtless and read this ahead..

We are all continuously harassed by our thoughts. Day in and day out. We think. Why does it harass us?

Thinking our thoughts do not bother us unless we are carried away by them. As long as we are carried by our over speeding thoughts, they do not disturb us. The issue arises when we pause in and study over mind and come to know how feverishly our mind works. This disturbs our inner peace.

So lets just get this straight unless you don't dive in and re think what all you've been thinking you won't be disturbed. So you maybe forming a conclusion right now in your "mind" that it is good to think right? 

You get to know and study your mind and indirectly it gives you a better idea of who you are? Then why this post? Lets find out

It's a good experience and you should be glad if you know your mind well ! You are in control of yourself then. But then the next step should be to take impersonal view about the thought process. Be only an "observer" of your thoughts. Only observe them, nothing but observe. They are guests. Your thoughts are guests. They dont have any lodging house of your mind. It is completely wrong to think of them as yours. If you associate your thoughts with yourself, you would never be able to get rid of them. Never identify them as yours, otherwise you would be standing in the way of their exit.

Whenever a thought or desire is born inside of you, see it grow before your mind's eye, and then observe its decline and then final departure. Feel nothing about it, good or bad. Form no opinions about them- favourable or unfavorable. Just watch them in a detached manner. In this silent choiceless manner the traffic of thoughts in your mind will decrease. And eventually you will achieve the state of thoughtless Bliss. 

I will Survive.

                           

Turn the failure into a coup :

                                              We all experience the blow of failure. No matter initially how distasteful or disappointing it feels, it can be helpful if viewed in positive manner. Now how do we do that?
We do that by solving a simple exercise. 

• Why did this happen?

• Could I have done anything to prevent it?

• Are there flaws in my work and approach that need correcting?

• Was I working in the wrong environment for my style and interests?

• How can I use this experience to positive advantage?

• Where can I improve myself as a result of this experience?

Try to answer these questions in a way that isn't harsh on you. Self evaluate yourself. 

Don't be seduced by the idea that a single failure means you are a complete failure. Avoid compounding one fear into many by blaming and shaming yourself unduly.


Everyone witnesses failure. Everyone falls.  You be the one who falls "forward" 
Make "endings" open new doors to "beginnings" 

Be as positive as you can, and one day you shall realise..  

Life's battles not always go to stronger man or woman, but sooner or later to those who think that "they can".

umm a break up blog?

Breakup - A point in life , where you feel you are so better without you patner. You suddenly turn deaf and blind towards all the good things. You turn out to be what you never were. YEAH, you are independent , emotions go away. And for some unkown bullshit reason YOU try to act all grown up and matured. Infact you dont even know half of the answers to your OWN actions. You have one track mind - to avoid, to ignore and make yourself feel better. For me ( personally ) A true break up is " when you are still in contact with eachother and talk and not feel anything about it. Oh yeah, to add something after few days or say months you are all alone. "awwww" You get emotional , you start feeling lonely and you are READY for another relationship. Haha, how stupid that is for me. I’ve survived a breakup, or if I haven't yet, I will. Courage is the central ingredient. The courage to believe in yourself, despite being rejected. The courage to laugh at yourself – or better yet, your Ex. And the courage to start over, and discover the love you deserve

Talking to strangers in everyday life


I talk to strangers regularly. I must admit that I do not speak to everyone, but because of my somewhat extroverted nature, I do make a point of talking to many strangers, regardless of who they may be, what they may first appear to be, or what they physically look like.

Now, the problem here is that now days a lot of us consider this kind of behaviour foolish. Many of you reading this note would not agree and believe " talking to strangers is incredibly idiotic "

But i disagree. There is nothing better than knowing the lives of different people. It helps you develop new thoughts , broaden your thinking and make you aware of what YOU are and what the OTHER person is.

Sometimes , it is reasonable and even smarter to avoid people provided you have the ability to JUDGE CORRECTLY a person. But how many of us are so sure about our ability to read minds.

To get to the point , I would say talk to strangers and PLEASE don't tag them as "boring" "idiotic" "untrustworthy" because

many of us show our true nature immediately while others take time to reveal their true nature and intent. This can be

done only by talking.

" Avoiding people , not talking to them because of their FIRST impression , idiotic nature , foolishness WILL only make you less aware of different things. "

What I say is give chance , let others speak , you NEVER know you may end up being one of their best friends.

"A stranger is just a friend you have not yet met "

Swearing..

I feel that Swearing can easily become a habit and is generally a bad habit.

The worst thing about teens today is that they swear, on top of that they think it is cool. wow! that is like murdering a person and not feeling guilty. Why does no one realise that they have got a problem if they swear.

Swearing is a dangerous habit that leads to other outrageous behavioral problems I think. Ofcourse a habit is always difficult to break. If every second word is *#!% this, and !^#% that, then you have a problem. Nowdays for some reason teens think the only cool way to reply to a friend, parent, teacher or patner is with an expletive. Most of the teens don't know how to speak comfortably without swearing.

I think teenagers swear because they hang out in a enviornment where others use swearing as virtually the only way to speak. The basic reason for which teens swear is they feel sad or angry or can't express themselves in a clear way.

And then on a personal level, I HATE PEOPLE who swear. Be it my friends alone. It shows their mentality, family background and many such things.

I feel civilized and respectful conversation is not a swearing contest haha. You owe it to yourself to find the vast array of other wonderful words your language provides to fill up your conversations. People who don't do this, limit their own ability to clearly and accurately express their feelings and thoughts to others and ultimately, they are less accepted and understood by the people around them.

There is something motivating for the people who want to quit swearing:

When you find yourself about to swear, make it a habbit to find another word or phrase that will better convey the same message or emotion. Find alternate words to substitute in place of expletives and discipline to use those instead.

And now there is something demotivating for the ones who swear:

Punish yourself. Every time you swear put money in a swear jar for charity. This is something that should be done. You don't do good by swearing. Atleast try to do good for others.!

P.S- Post is for people who have got the habbit of swearing, And now wish to change.

Be selfish in Love.

I would like to ask a question :
What would you prefer first? You or your relationship? Although answering “the relationship” may sound correct to you now. It is a unhealthy and wrong way to live thinking relationship comes first.
Often people have relationships based on having fear of losing, being dependent on the partner and having insecurites about ourselves.
It is only when you can respect and love yourself first, that the relationship can be a truly loving one and not one based on need, dependency, fear, or insecurities.
In simpler way when we travel in a plane, We are given instructions that in an emergency we should put mask on ourselves first rather than helping our child our partner. Has anyone wondered why do they say this? Don't you feel it is kind of slefish to help ourselves FIRST before helping others? If you consider it selfish, the answer is how can you help someone when you’re unconscious or struggling for breath?
Love is similar to that mask. We can’t fully love our partner unless we love ourself FIRST. Strap that air mask on good and tight, and we will be able to love endless amount. If we don’t love ourself first, we have no love to give. If you truly put yourself first in love, nurture yourself, honor what you want, and make YOUR happiness the number one priority, you are better equipped to love others. By doint this We canlove others to the degree we love ourselves.

Sometimes lying is necessary

Sometimes lying is necessary.

I belive that, no relationship in this world can withstand TRUTH and only truth. Whether we like it or not, it appears that our relationships are held together, not only by telling the truth, but by also telling an occasional lie. I basically am trying to say that the truth can be used as a "weapon of destruction" in our close relationships. Some people use that, some don't.Accoring to me, People who lie to their partner is because they don't want to hurt them. People lie, because they still want to continue, knowing that they have done few things wrong, they still are willing to continue. If a person has committed a mistake and knows to himself that he can commit that mistake again, or this is the way I want to live, Why would he lie about this to his partner? He would rather tell his partner the truth, get away with him ( which is obvious ) and enjoy the things he did secretly without any further fear of being get caught. Don't you all think so?

On the other side, when we really want to quit a relationship, we often say what we really think. This happens when either of the partner is no longer concerned about keeping a relationship intact, the truth comes out fast and furious and it stings. Telling the truth in a romantic relationship can often lead to a lot of hurt, pain, and suffering - deception is not a luxury, sometimes lying is absolutely necessary.

People need to be true and original, ofcourse. People need to be original to themselves when facing problems because the surest defense against such problems is extreme individualism, originality of thinking. That is, something that can't be feigned, faked, imitated.

The belief that one needs to be true to someone for being into a relationship is not 100% practical. Everything changes. Nothing is constant. A person needs to have FAITH on himself and on his partner. Faith which is that quality that enables us to belive what WE know is UNTRUE. People having mutual faith in themselves can always remain happy. The thing important here is one should be true to himself.
If people in this world try to know all these things and the meaning of these things, life becomes so carefree. We all should try to know people as much as we can. And we should put no obstructions to it.

I firmly belive that Lies that build are better than truths that destroy.

P.S- Make no mistake about it, telling the truth is necessary in a close relationship But, always telling the truth often leads to more problems than good.