Thursday, May 6, 2010
Monday, April 26, 2010
What would you prefer first? You or your relationship? Although answering “the relationship” may sound correct to you now. It is a unhealthy and wrong way to live thinking relationship comes first.
Often people have relationships based on having fear of losing, being dependent on the partner and having insecurites about ourselves.
It is only when you can respect and love yourself first, that the relationship can be a truly loving one and not one based on need, dependency, fear, or insecurities.
In simpler way when we travel in a plane, We are given instructions that in an emergency we should put mask on ourselves first rather than helping our child our partner. Has anyone wondered why do they say this? Don't you feel it is kind of slefish to help ourselves FIRST before helping others? If you consider it selfish, the answer is how can you help someone when you’re unconscious or struggling for breath?
Love is similar to that mask. We can’t fully love our partner unless we love ourself FIRST. Strap that air mask on good and tight, and we will be able to love endless amount. If we don’t love ourself first, we have no love to give. If you truly put yourself first in love, nurture yourself, honor what you want, and make YOUR happiness the number one priority, you are better equipped to love others. By doint this We canlove others to the degree we love ourselves.
Saturday, April 24, 2010
I belive that, no relationship in this world can withstand TRUTH and only truth. Whether we like it or not, it appears that our relationships are held together, not only by telling the truth, but by also telling an occasional lie. I basically am trying to say that the truth can be used as a "weapon of destruction" in our close relationships. Some people use that, some don't.Accoring to me, People who lie to their partner is because they don't want to hurt them. People lie, because they still want to continue, knowing that they have done few things wrong, they still are willing to continue. If a person has committed a mistake and knows to himself that he can commit that mistake again, or this is the way I want to live, Why would he lie about this to his partner? He would rather tell his partner the truth, get away with him ( which is obvious ) and enjoy the things he did secretly without any further fear of being get caught. Don't you all think so?
If people in this world try to know all these things and the meaning of these things, life becomes so carefree. We all should try to know people as much as we can. And we should put no obstructions to it.
I firmly belive that Lies that build are better than truths that destroy.
P.S- Make no mistake about it, telling the truth is necessary in a close relationship But, always telling the truth often leads to more problems than good.
Friday, April 16, 2010
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Trust according to me is, is to get to know the people and trust them to be who they are. And not trust them for who we want them to be. Because when this does not happen we have the feeling of " I dont trust you ". which is quite wrong.
For me, i belive that there is a lot of difference between trust and expectation. Yet it has striking resemblence. People who belive that, they Trust some one completely need to know this, it is practically impossible to trust anyone. And it is a terrible fact. Whether we like it or not. Psychologically there is nothing in the world, that you can put your faith, your trust, or your belief in. Neither your gods, nor your science can save you, can bring you psychological certainty; and you have to accept that you can trust in absolutely nothing.
But this is true only for people who call their expectations to be trust. Ofcourse everyone can be trusted for something or the other. People can be trusted for their bad nature or good nature.
The thing which i hate the most nowdays is people judge future by its past. Not all. But few. Why do we not give a person a chance to prove himself.? I dont know about all, but in general, why do we have the feeling of " i dont trust him " after the person doesnt satisfy your expectations? How do we judge a person that he is not to be trusted? In short what i feel is, we dont trust ourselves to trust that person..
It is really complicated to state something about a person related to trust and faith. Because we usually make statements considering the bad things about a person, which sometimes are situational. Situations sometimes make people untrusted. But what matters the most is, the person should be true to his heart, should know what he wants, should let others know what he wants, and if he has guilt, he should have the confidence on himself on not repeating that again.. if this is the case with a person., i belive he can be trusted.
We all in our lives have broken someone's trust. We sometimes realise it. Sometimes we dont.
It is really sad to know people who dont belive on paintings, but belive on photographs. Some people dont belive paintings because they are man made, but the fail to notice the feelings put in the paintings. This can be related to trust. We often fail to know the EXACT reason for which the person has lied, and we start making statements as " I dont trust him " failing to notice the reason for which he has lied. The reason sometimes counts. There can be alot of emotions behind a reason for which a person lies. Sometimes people are trusted even more, after their reasons are known.
Basically i have written all this, for only one purpose and that is, to help people who face such types of situations. It is really childish if a person decides not to trust a certain person for few wrong things commited by him Having a vaild reason. It really should not happen to any one. It does not mean to trust a thief that he would not steal things. But if you come to know that theif has changed his mind or changed his nature of work, or had some reasons for which he stole things, he can be forgiven, because people change. And they change for a reason.
I would also like to tell you all this:
I belive to Trust again and again. so When the trust level gets high enough, I belive people transcend apparent limits, discover new and awesome abilities for which they were previously unaware..